Straightening My Crooked Crown


1. Belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.
2. The feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.
synonyms: trust, belief, faith, credence, conviction.
I’ve always admired the confidence that oozes from those around me, whether it was there approach to life, how they felt about themselves, or dating/ relationships. But confidence  has  always been a difficult emotion for me to identify with. In fact I often felt like i lacked or had little confidence up until a very late stage of my life. For me confidence has grown with experiences, which has impacted on my mindset. I have seen confidence work in various situations, and not having it at times stops me from living in the now and has held me back from opportunities. Confidence is definitely attractive for both sexes, you want someone who has a little bit of fire in them.  But confidence needs to be seasoned with a dash of humility, it’s all good walking around thinking your s*@t don’t stink, but we are all human and mustn’t forget that!!
 What has helped me feel more confident is understanding and learning to enjoy the process of change. So when it comes to my body, I am trying stop dwelling on the negatives but with every inch I loose or with every pair of jeans feeling a little looser I embrace those positives. It’s so easy to feel self conscious nowadays, constantly being simulated by images of what the world deems as “perfect bodies.” But it is important to celebrate our individuality, love the lumps, bumps, gaps, kinks and all! I see nothing wrong with getting coaching or attending workshops to help us improve areas of life that need a confidence boost.
Although there are still elements of my life I’m working on, I am definitely embracing self love more and more each day. Having been natural for 3 years now, I’ve learnt to embrace the versatility of my texture, switching up fashion and mastering my craft and turning my passions into my career. The way I look at it is there are two outcomes, stay as I am or be bold and brave and step out, who know’s on the other side of fear are all the things I’ve dreamt about.